Earlier this week, I was taking the garbage out to the end of the driveway in preparation for collection the next morning. My nosy neighbor, who was also taking his garbage out, made a snarky comment about how I should be careful with that heavy garbage and that ‘it was a man’s job’.
While I really wanted to tell him to piss off and apologize that his wife was unable to carry a bag of garbage, I made a slightly less rude comment about how it was my workout for the evening and that I was quite capable of taking garbage out. It got me thinking about how we divide household responsibilities.
We are very much not a 50:50 ratio in terms of household responsibilities. Honestly we don’t even pay attention to ratios. We each have our own tasks, that we have naturally fell into and help each other when we need it.
My husband is a big baby when it comes to smells and anything gross. He’s more lady then I am sometimes. I deal with gross, sick, nastiness all day at work in the form of decayed teeth and periodontal disease. I am totally desensitized to anything and everything ”gross”. Garbage and kitty litter don’t faze me at all, my husband has bile in his mouth at the mere mention. So I usually do it. We both gather and collect, I tie the bags and usually take it out. I’m young and fit. I can lift a bag or drag a can out. If it’s heavy, without question my husband does it, but eight times out of ten, I deal with garbage and everyday I clean the cat’s litter. I don’t mind at all, call me weird but I actually enjoy doing the garbage, there’s something sort of cleansing about removing a bunch of crap from your property.
I take care of the kitchen and bedrooms in terms of cleaning, he always cleans the basement.
I garden, he mows.
We both work on home renovations. I’m a woman who loves her table saws.
I usually cook and clean in meal prep. Maybe I’m a feminist? Maybe I like control over the kitchen and have become very particular about how I like things done and he’s figured he’s better off out of my way. Sometimes he’ll take over and cook or try to help but I like doing these things my way.
I bring laundry down and wash, he carries upstairs and helps put away…even if he folds wrong 🙂
We both work on finances. He plans everything, I implement his plans.
When You Absolutely Have to Work Together, Equally
While we may be a bit against the grain in terms of most standard male/female household roles, we always work together on finances. Finances is an area that both parties have to give 100% or you will succumb to failures.
For years, I tried to do it all on my own and I failed terribly. My husband saw that I was in over my head and helped me climb out. He developed a spreadsheet that I could not live without. Every few months we sit down together and project all of our expenses. Once we figure everything out together I take over day-to-day in terms of monitoring bill payments and he checks in occasionally. This works well for us.
In all household responsibilities, whatever system you choose to use is fine, as long as it works for you. Ladies, if you want to take the garbage out, that’s great but if you’re husband doesn’t want to wash the floors, that’s also ok 🙂
How do you manage day-to-day responsibilities? Do you split everything evenly 50/50?